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Living, much less being in a romantic relationship with a gamer can oftentimes only be described with one word: infuriating.
Sometimes I look at my husband and wish that I could turn into one of the characters in his game and throw a fireball at him. We’ve been together for 6 years today (it’s 12:23 AM – after midnight it’s official in girl time) and instead of cuddling me and reflecting upon our time together he is slamming buttons on his keyboard in the, more oftentimes than not failed, attempt to down a boss. But, it’s okay; really, I’m not just saying that to sound like a good wife. I’ve only reached this point of acceptance after going through countless hours of fights over his time spent gaming.
I wouldn’t doubt that more men than women are actually reading this article, hoping to finally figure out the magical steps to sate the beast within their significant other that only seems to come out when it comes to their gaming addiction. Too bad that there isn’t a spell rotation to fix everything irl amirite? To the possible dismay of the gamer reading this hoping for a quick fix, I can’t promise you anything – I can only share my experiences.
I will be writing a regular article about living and dealing with a romantic relationship with a gamer but for my first introduction I would like to give you a snapshot of the first three years of our relationship:
Year 1 – That annoying first year where you can’t seem to get your tongue out of the other person’s mouth. I know he plays games professionally but, hell his winnings did buy me a ticket to a beach vacation. It can’t be that bad right?
Year 2 – He’s botting his WoW character and seems to be getting a new account banned every other month. Actually, he was a huge asshole this year – I don’t see him very often because we live apart… he uses this as an excuse to play more games. Whatever, I mean, we’re still kinda new at this right? I start up a shiny new account for myself in the hopes of getting closer to him.
Year 3 – Still playing WoW but on my own. My plan to get closer to him through the game had its triumphs and its failures… We move in together with a fellow gamer. All I can say about this year is that my signif and roomie both got fat from sitting on their asses playing video games.
Stay tuned for Years 1 and 2 in the next day or so!
Update: You can read part 2 here.
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orestia,
let me tell you something gurlfriend, i applaud you for putting up with all that you had and have to.
that is love and dedication to a relationship
something like that is admirable and inspiring
and your man better be making you happy! (in bed) lol
but for realz, relationship is about compromise. and you are an amazing, beautiful and terrific woman. and he is very lucky to have such a fine piece of ass as yourself
so YOU WERK IT HONEY!
—–>PcO<—–
Orestia, I have played with a fair amount of women along the way. Several who have had husbands who play as well. I am sure that more often times than not most wives feel the same way you do since more men seem to play the game.
I recall my sister-in-law starting to play WoW when her and my bro were dating to spend more time with him as well. Maybe you can help lead a group for women who are having a hard time dealing with their husbands raid schedules? The two of you seem to make things work beautifully.
This article is so great and true – compromise is definitely key. I’ve been with guys who gamed more than me and guys who didn’t game at all. One relationship I had was with a guy long distance who I had met playing WoW. When I’d go to visit (7 hour drive) I’d bring my computer and guess what we did all weekend? Haha, it was terrible. I’ve since stopped playing as much to appease my current guy and get my priorities straight. I still game of course, but if I went back to raiding I think his head would explode!
I look forward to reading the rest of this series. Reading this definitely reminds me of not only personal past experiences and mistakes, but of how so many people I know within the game are going down this very path. Unfortunately, many of those that are having contentions with their significant other over the game don’t end up working through it, causing the relationship to break up.
Just the other night I was playing with some people who were /priding/ themselves on making their wife/girlfriend go to bed without them, or said that their sig other was the, “last of their priorities” right then because of an impending boss kill.
Doing it yourself for a period of time is one thing, but when you fix that and get on the “outside” of that mindset, looking in is saddening.
Orestia, don’t forget the times when a bunch of us came over to drink/play video games!
Emailing this to my wife.
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